I tot having a maid will lessen my burden but actually she doubled up the problems in the household.Being a 1st time employer to domestic helper, hb & I kind of "kasi muka" to my maid. It's not as though both of us neva reprimanded our maid but we juz dnt want to be too harsh to her but now, we regretted of not being hard on her. We have been linient with our maid but lama2 pijak kepala pulak akhirnya. We allow our maid to use her hp cos we dnt want her to use our household phone to call Indo and also convenient for me or hb to call her if there's any problem if she's out sending Khairi to school or when she's on her off day. But the pass few months, it's kind of hard for me or hb to call home cos the phone line at home is always engaged, being reason that she gave is that Raiyan; my 20mth old son likes to play with the phone. The phone was left engaged till hb came back from work.We ever told her that before or after she send Khairi to school, she have to make sure the home phone is properly place on the receiver.But last Wednesday(6/1/2010) it happens again. Hb called me @ work telling me that the home phone is engaged,yet again, and by letting go his frustration I'm the one who get the scolding from hb.He told me to call my maid's hp and I told him that her hp doesnt hv any credit. So when hb reached home dat day, he asked Ernis;my maid, why the phone was engaged and that was when she checked the phone and said maybe Raiyan played with the phone.
So that night hb and Khairi waited for me @ Punggol Plaza cos he wanted to buy kite for Khairi @ the bookshop.When we reached my front door, we decided to open the door with the housekey in stead of pressing the bell. I heard that Raiyan was crying in my maid's room and when I opened the door, Ernis was actually talking on her hp, leaving Raiyan crying his lungs out.At the instance I requested that she handed her hp to me.Guess wat she did?She told me to wait while she need to do something to her phone and while she was doing that, her whole body was trembling like someone did something wrong.I told her to hand her hp to me and she told me off that she got the rights on her hp. At that point, my patience had gone to the top and I raised my voice like an army commander, ignoring wat will the neighbours will be thinking abt me. When she pass to me her hp, it was actually locked by her pin code and when I asked her to write her pin code, she refuses and i demand she lock in into her pin code. When I checked thru her hp mgses, she actually deleted everything but I'm not stupid. I checked her call memory and find out she actually talked on the phone almost everyday, not considering night or day., especially when there's nobody at home except for the kids.
With my raised voice, I asked her "kata kamu takde credit, ni skarang kenapa ada credit?Pembohong besar eh kamu!" With her selamba face she answered," ini bukan sim kad saya.ini kawan saya punya" True enough. When I called my number using her hp, the number is different. I demand to talk to her fren but she refuses to say it. After confiscating her hp, Khairi actually went into my maid's room to take his toys and that is when he came running out from the room telling me that my maid started to pack her things. She told my hb that she wanted us to send her back to the agency but we ignore with her plea and called the maid agency. The other time she gave me problem by joining some sort of extra income venture like MWAY, Tupperware but this one is recommended by her female cousin who is very close to her. I got the habit of checking her wardrobe on her off days ever since I read abt maid doing black magic in the newspaper.That is when I found out abt those extra income venture she joined. Hv reprimanded her abt that and she said her cousin actually "forced" her to join that venture and she hv to pay $380 by installment. I told her that it's against the law and I can report her and her cousin to the authority. Hearing that she apologised and promised not to do it again. A few mths later, I received a sms when I was assisting my doctor frm someone that I dnt regconised or listed in my hp contact telling me this " maaf saodari punye pembantu ada off day ya..maaf saye bukan mau fitnah atao kepo melayu cakap saye cuma mau bagi tau saodari betul ke pembantu saodari klo keluar pakae selendang?tapi saye sering nampak saodari punya pembantu keluar dari hotel bersame jantan india klo tak salah jantan itu pula sering antar sampae ke sini kadang masih lanjut kat tangga mungkin di saat saodari belum balek atao tak ade rumah klo hari cuti pula jantan itu sering datang sini apa saodari tak prasan maaf soadari saya cuma mau beri tau soadari saje berhati-hati dengan pembantu soadari itu atau mungkin klo soadari mau membuktikan saodari hari minggu bilang dengan pembantu saodari klo soadari mau keluar baleknya lambat saodari tengok kat rumah atao kat tangge saye juga sering jumpa pembantu saodari selain jumpa jantan itu juga ada jantan lain itu juga lain2 orangnya" Reading tis made me worried abt my children's safety. After work, I quickily went home and confronted her. She said this might be her cousin's tactic to revenge on her when she refused to join the venture. I threathened her that I will make a police report cos my hp number is a private number and such msges is considered violating my privacy but eventually I neva did a police report. Now she already started to be rude to me. I called the maid agency and requested to change to a new maid as soon as possible. I even took 2 days of urgent leave cos I was afraid of my kids' safety. That Wednesday nite,Kak Lis;the agent told me the earliest that I could get a new maid is late next week. I told her to process that as soon as possible and I will come down on Friday (8/1/2010) to sign the paperwork. Then Kak Lis requested to talk to my maid and guess wat, my maid make up stories abt me scolding her for no reason. Being a maid agent, Kak Lis knows who is talking the truth and who is not. She explained to me what she hv told my maid telling her to wait till the new maid comes but for now it's her responsibility to serve me as her employer. After putting the phone with Kak Lis, my maid requested to use her hp to inform her fren whose SIM card she is using. I allowed her but telling her she can use for awhile. When she talked to her fren, they talked in their native dialect. I told her to talk in malay but she ignore my instructions and when she talked more than 5mins, I told Khairi to asked her to hand the hp to me but instead she scolded Khairi telling him that she's using the phone.Upon that reaction from her, I stand infront of her and raised my voice calling her name and she still ignored my instructions, giving me the face that wanted to kena smack one day. Hb who juz went to bed after the commotion earlier, came out from the room and shout at her at her ears for ignoring my instructions.That is when she startled and drop the phone on the floor which Khairi passed back to me.Being a patience person and employer, that is the 1st time I actually seen and heard hb actually raised or scolded Ernis. All this time, I'm the one who do the "dirty work" of reprimanding my maid. I guess hb had enough of my maid's nonsense. Words that came out from hb's mouth that nite was indescribdable.
